Marriage Life

I am a single talking about marriage life here, not about how good it is because i have not and might not have the chance to experience it, but how I felt about it after seeing my friends and my sister going through.

My sister is a very traditional women. Her marriage is like her current job, first one and still on-going, first boyfriend and became her husband, of course I hope she change for a better prospect job but not another husband unless inevitable.

At first she wasn't very relying on her husband, in fact she was very dependent on my parents. I was kinda worried how is she going to perform as a wife when she got married. But I guess time plus a little effort does wonders, she seem like a good wifey now!

I don't know what you think a good wife should be, but to me according to what I see for the past few months, my sister fare well.

She will sought his opinion for all matters and usually follows whatever, wherever he decided on. I would say her husband D can be quite an eccentric person, by saying that I don't mean bad. I meant his way of thinking and doing things are quite different from our family. Looking at it now, I believe my sis had adjusted herself pretty much to suit to his lifestyle, which is stupid to change yourself for the other party but noble if you look from another angle. D pampers Sis much too by bringing her to vacation, cooks her meal, buy household gadgets to lessen her chores.

I can't say that her man will stay true or be good to her till she the day she bites the dust, all I can say she is very pleased and satisfied with her life now. Isn't that enough?

On the other hand, out of 5 friends who are married, 4 are complaining, and out of the 4, 3 are shotgun marriage, all their attention and focus are on the children.

No more love and surprises from other half anymore... Sad huh?

Everyday's mundane conversation are about children's problem, work and colleague's problem, own family problems blah blah blah...

No more saying I love you, I miss you...

Although having a companion at the end of the day is good and you won't feel so lonely especially when experiencing an menses breakdown. But looking at happenings around me(xclude Sis), I really think I rather be alone sometimes. Having a wrong companion can really make thing worse!

Marriage life is so boring! Looking after children is even more boring!

Having a child = cessation Of individual lifestyle

I am not generalizing it as bad, it depends on how you look at it. One can see giving birth and looking after children is the greatest and holiest thing ever, just not me...

If I want to bring an innocent life into this chaotic world, first I would have to make sure I can give him/her the best I could afford, right? My earnings are barely enough to fend for myself which I believe many of us are too. Then how can one be so selfish and think they somehow can make it after giving birth? Then after that, you seek help from your parents, in-laws, close friends, boss either financially or to take care of YOUR child while you are working. Everyone with slight compassion will help because you seem like a pathetic fellow slogging your guts off to support your child but hey you asked for it! It's totally unfair because your parents has their own life too and your boss should not condone your lack in performance due to YOUR own 'family' problems.

Eventually financial instability will cause daily conflicts resulted into huge arguments and lead to unhappy marriage life even to divorce. If you can't even fulfill the basic necessities in usual life, talk about love?

Anyway this conversation with myself is getting to nowhere. Ending it abruptly, good night!

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